RECLAIM is a program for men to tell their stories of sexual harm, trauma or abuse fostering discovery, truth, and healing. We invite you to join with other men in a safe and facilitated retreat environment to begin the “retelling” of your story to enable your own healing process.
The curriculum, format, and processes for this retreat/workshop have been developed over several years of experience and education.
We welcome you at any point in your journey.
Although the statistics tell us that 1 in 6 men have suffered abuse, trauma, and/or harm, there are few places for men to be with others to see, understand, and share their stories and to gain acceptance and understanding.
We live in a society where men are often raised and taught to believe that we are sexually powerful – however there is a lot of shame in dealing with past or present experiences where we have been overpowered, manipulated, coerced, humiliated, or led into a harmful or traumatic abuse – and so we don’t talk about it.
The environment will be wrapped in safety, support, connection, and confidentiality. Some of our stories may never have been told—and we ask that you begin the journey by sharing what is possible to share. Giving you the gift of your own story and what you know (even if it is not entirely clear) gives the opportunity to dispel the secrets and the shame you may carry. There will be processing time within group and with the individual facilitators along with reflection, conversation. This is a place of acceptance and understanding.
Scott Gibson received his Masters in Social Work from Loyola Chicago University’s School of Social Work, and is a member of the National Association of Social Workers. For over 30 years Scott has worked with men, women and couples in a variety of settings. Scott has a focus working with men dealing with interpersonal issues and relational concerns.
Scott completed advanced certification in Trauma and Abuse from the Allender Center in Seattle, WA. and has extensive experience helping individuals dealing with childhood trauma and abuse. He is currently completing an externship with the Allender Center. Scott sees himself as your partner in understanding the challenges in your life and bringing intention and direction to therapy. His direct, yet compassionate style will challenge you to optimal growth. His transparency and practical advice have placed him in high demand as a speaker.
Scott is a published author, leads both coed and men’s groups and facilitates weekend therapy retreats. Scott has his own private practice (scottlcsw.com) in Barrington, IL. Scott is married with three sons and enjoys running and competing in AKC dog agility competitions with his Border Terrier dogs Scout & Pip.
Kary is in private practice counseling www.lifegate-counseling.com and has 25 years of deep expertise and experience with men’s issues, developing, leading and facilitating retreats and transformational weekend workshops. He is certified with the Seattle School of Psychology-Allender Center for Abuse and Trauma and has a heart for working with men who have suffered from trauma and abuse, and specifically sexual harm and the resulting PTSD. Kary also holds a certification for Sexual Addiction Therapy.
Kary has a Masters in Counseling from Colorado Christian University, an undergraduate degree in Organizational Leadership from Trinity University, and attended Indiana University for an undergraduate degree in Music Education. He is co-founder of “RECLAIM” a weekend workshop developed to serve men who have wounds from unwanted sexual experiences, sexual trauma or sexual abuse. Kary was also on staff at Willow Creek Community Church as a part of the Pastoral Response team.
Along with counseling, Kary continues his work in the corporate arena, consulting with organizations and executives across the U.S. and Europe. (www.whetstoneinc.com) He works with family businesses and corporations to develop next generations for leadership, and strategic planning, and cultural transformation. His focus is on coaching/consulting with senior executives and leadership teams towards individual and team effectiveness, and organizational strategic initiatives.
The experience and content of the Reclaim program is impactful and unique. Care is taken in the application and selection process of each man that will attend in order to ensure the best “fit” for all participants.
Michigan City, IN
Early Bird Discount (45 days in advance): $895
Returning Participants: $850
Fees include lodging and most meals.
$300 deposit required, payment in full due at the start of the retreat
Refunds, Cancellations and Financial Assistance (scholarship) will be considered on an individual basis.
Send your $300 non-refundable deposit (payable to Whetstone) along with your application and recommendation form to:
Kary Miller, Attn: Reclaim,
117 South Cook Street – #345, Barrington, IL 60010
Or email to firstname.lastname@example.org
Once we have received your registration and application forms, we will contact you to schedule a phone interview in discussing more of your goals and assessing the best fit for you in this program.
Scott and Kary are good men. The word ‘good’ can be read as a middling compliment—it is not. It is an assessment of their character, gifting, passion, commitment and heart for Jesus. They are men whose goodness rings like a clarion call to life. They are kind, bold, and wise men who know how to speak to the deepest parts of our heart to expose our brokenness and invite us to the glory of redemption. They are honest, true to the heart, and kind. If you want to grow, these men have walked the dark paths in their own lives, and with many others, and they will walk with you into a goodness that is worth all the struggle. They are dear friends.